"You look like you just strolled in from the strip club."
One of my good friends was told this, this morning, upon arriving at work. The friend will remain nameless, and so will the production manager who said it.
I didn't quite know what to say to her. She was angry, of course, that someone would say something like that to her. I felt it was an inappropriate comment myself, but she really did look like she had just stopped in from a strip club.
Don't get me wrong, this person is my friend, whether she looks like a hoochie or not, she is still my friend. It bothers me that she never used to look like such a skank. She was a very classy and elegant woman, always took the time to ensure her appearance was tasteful. Not anymore. Now a days she comes in smelling like an ash tray that has been doused in cologne, tops that show more cleavage then Anna Nicole Smith, jeans so tight she has developed a bladder infection, and her make up always looks smeared.
Why the drastic change?? Last July she started seeing a new guy, a younger guy because she will only date younger men. This new boyfriend likes her to dress skanky and act slutty, in fact, he laughed and called her a 'Milf' one day. From that point on I couldn't stand him. It was apparent he only seen one thing in her, and it wasn't her charming personality and kind ways. I don't know what she sees in him, to be honest, I could never be with a guy who would tell her friend right in front of her that he "shaves his pubes". Yep, that is correct, he did tell me that little tidbit of information. I look at her, and she laughs, and says 'I don't know why..... It's not like I go down there at all......'
Red flags waving everywhere here!!! Ok, he's shaving down there for some reason, if not for you, then someone else! I had to walk away. I was not going to continue on with that conversation.
I feel troubled though. I want to tell her I feel she's headed down a path of self destruction, but it really isn't any of my business. She is my friend either way, I just want her to go back to the way she was. Such an internal conflict.
I didn't quite know what to say to her. She was angry, of course, that someone would say something like that to her. I felt it was an inappropriate comment myself, but she really did look like she had just stopped in from a strip club.
Don't get me wrong, this person is my friend, whether she looks like a hoochie or not, she is still my friend. It bothers me that she never used to look like such a skank. She was a very classy and elegant woman, always took the time to ensure her appearance was tasteful. Not anymore. Now a days she comes in smelling like an ash tray that has been doused in cologne, tops that show more cleavage then Anna Nicole Smith, jeans so tight she has developed a bladder infection, and her make up always looks smeared.
Why the drastic change?? Last July she started seeing a new guy, a younger guy because she will only date younger men. This new boyfriend likes her to dress skanky and act slutty, in fact, he laughed and called her a 'Milf' one day. From that point on I couldn't stand him. It was apparent he only seen one thing in her, and it wasn't her charming personality and kind ways. I don't know what she sees in him, to be honest, I could never be with a guy who would tell her friend right in front of her that he "shaves his pubes". Yep, that is correct, he did tell me that little tidbit of information. I look at her, and she laughs, and says 'I don't know why..... It's not like I go down there at all......'
Red flags waving everywhere here!!! Ok, he's shaving down there for some reason, if not for you, then someone else! I had to walk away. I was not going to continue on with that conversation.
I feel troubled though. I want to tell her I feel she's headed down a path of self destruction, but it really isn't any of my business. She is my friend either way, I just want her to go back to the way she was. Such an internal conflict.
@ 7:55 AM
9 Comments:
This is her version of a COrvette. A mid life crisis, no matter what age she is. All you can really do is try to support her, I guess. Personally if it was my pal, I would tell the truth. WTF? What in the world are you doing, girl? Hopefully she can get out of it without too much damage....loss of a job...family..friends...dignity. If we looked hard enough we could all talk about the spouses or boyfriend/girlfriend of our friends, I think. Hopefully she is happy, and as long as it's not dangerous...that's what matters I guess.
Oh, btw what is her phone number? LOL.
I have run into a similar situation. I too struggled with what if anything to say. I came to the conclusion that being a friend, a true friend, means that you are a friend through good and bad.
I just asked myself, would I want to know if this were me?
Oh yeah, you betcha.
I told my friend what I was thinking (as nicely as I could) and she actually thanked me. She had no idea what people were saying or thinking.
Her behavior changed and people noticed and complimented her.
Good luck with this one...
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Nair is better than shaving.
Sorry Thomas, you're way too old. The younger man thing has always been the rule, even before the new guy.
jack, so, the nair thing, are we speaking from experience?? LOL
I don't see how Nair can possibly be better than shaving when we're talking about "down there." I mean, Nair can wreak havoc on sensitive skin, right??
I'm hurt. Way too old? Not just a little old, but way too old? A few years her senior maybe, but way too old? I think I'm going to take my geritol/viagra/metamucil/gin cocktail and go think about this age thing.
That's not it at all. You and she are the same age. She's just after younger guys, much younger guys.
Nair burns ... enough said!
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