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Monday, November 24, 2008

The Perils of Being a Daughter-in-Law

  • I've tried recently to have a better relationship with Janet. I think the harder I try, the more estranged the relationship gets. Two weeks ago I called Janet and asked her if she wanted some company for the day. To my embarrassment she told me to save my gas and not worry about driving all the way down to her house. I want to believe she was just thinking economically, but, I have my doubts. It is moments like these that reaffirm my belief that I wasn't destined to ever be considered 'good enough' for her.
  • Being a daughter-in-law gives the mother-in-law all rights to be an indian giver. Making a special trip about a month ago, Janet drops by the house to give me a cabinet she had offered me on our last visit. A cabinet, I might add, that I actually liked and really wanted. Just this past Saturday she apparently asked Charlie for the cabinet back so she could give it to her daughter. I suppose a natural child will always come before one who has merely married into the family. I was glad to hear Charlie told her no.
  • A mother-in-law never has anything good to say to a daughter-in-law. The phone is in a weird place even though it's sitting on a desk in the kitchen mere feet from the phone jack. It is unnecessary to bring anything to Thanksgiving dinner even though everyone else is, perhaps I might poison everyone with my terrible cooking. My children are spoiled just because I choose to give them love and attention on their birthday by actually picking out a present rather than handing them a $10 bill and a balloon. How does a 6 year old get any fun out of a piece of paper?
  • Everything bad that ever happens will always be the daughter-in-law's fault. Whether it's the son's alcoholism or his outlandish behavior, it's always the fault of the daughter-in-law. Perhaps if I kept him in check, kept him under mythumb, totally dominated his entire life....... I hate to say it, but, perhaps it is the son that is the cause of his behavior. Perhaps the daughter-in-law does her best with what she has to work with and the son should be responsible for his own behavior. After all, he is a big boy now, I can't help it he didn't turn out the way she wanted him to.
  • I've come to the conclusion that I'm going to stop trying. If she can't accept me because of my past then I need to keep my distance from her. It's hard for me to begin with, it gets even harder when I'm not treated well. I already feel guilt and low self esteem, I don't really need to be constantly reminded by her.

Sunday, November 16, 2008

Random Thoughts

  • I often wonder why it is, the older I get, the less often I can keep my thoughts to myself. I had to call the Trade Adjustment people the other day to have them send me more paperwork. The woman I spoke with was an absolute Bitch! Rude, short tempered, and just an all-around discredit to society. So, what do I do? I say to her "Boy, you really aren't very friendly, are you." Big mistake! Never wise to piss off a woman who is solely responsible for making sure you get the paperwork to continue to receive unemployment funds and school tuition. If I don't receive anything by Wednesday, I'm going to call back and ask to speak with someone in charge.
  • Being poor has opened my eyes to a whole other side of life that I was unaware of. Sure, I knew it was there, it's hard not to spot the welfare mom with 5 dirty kids fighting over a bag of candy in the check-out line, but I didn't really realize just how dificult it is. I have been so used to a certain lifestyle that it is hard for me to not be able to have and do the things I used to. I've become an expert coupon clipper, quite by accident I must admit. While watching Good Morning America I happened to see a segment on the 'Coupon Mom', a woman who had created a site disigned specifically for people like me, people who want to make their every penny count.
  • I've decided to start making weekly resolutions. Who needs New Year's, you never keep those resolutions anyway. This weeks resolution is to start putting 10% of all our earnings in a savings account and NOT touch it. Harder said then done. I've always had a savings account, but it is my new resolution to start adding to it all the time. Not just when tax time rolls around or we have a few extra bucks for some reason. I happened to see a news segment last week that was geared toward low income families and the programs out there geared toward creating a savings strategy for them. Next weeks resolution is to research and find out what kind of programs my family is qualified for. On the news segment, the woman had a savings account that was actually matched, penny for penny, by the government. Who knows, maybe I qualify for something like that.
  • I really, REALLY hate snow. Unfortunately, I think the snow is here to stay for a while. Even as I sit here, typing this, I look outside and see a veritable blizzard in progress. Ugh!
  • Lastly, I can't believe my little Hannah is going to be one on Wednesday. Has it already been a year?? The time flew by so fast, where did it go? One day she was a tiny little newborn and the next? Six teeth, devilish green eyes, always where she shouldn't be and never where she should....... She's a wild woman in a pink sleeper. I don't think I would have it any other way, either.

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